The Big 4 | Flirting Tips for the Ladies

Many people think a girl has to be drop-dead gorgeous like Cindy Sanyu, Genevieve Nnaji or Jackie Appiah to be really successful at flirting with a guy. The truth is this--anybody can do it. You just need to learn the basics in order to flirt correctly, impress the guy, and show him that you like him. Who knows? You might be surprised to find out that he likes you too.

Our African parents taught us to never chase a guy. He is to do all the work from point A to the very end. The typical setting is to see the dude lurking around the corner; if he is unlucky, he'll get caught in the rain without an umbrella while waiting for you to stroll by. We all know that times have changed; we (females) have to catch up with the changing times and meet the guy half way at least. Perhaps, there's one fine gentleman that is doing you strong ting like Banky W's song; here are some flirting tips to get the ball rolling.

1. Be conscious of your appearance

If you want to flirt with guys, the first thing that you need to pay attention is your physical appearance. It is not always necessary to dress provocatively, but you should wear something that looks elegant, clean, comfortable, and at the same time makes you feel confident. Remember, you don't need to have millions of expensive clothes to look beautiful because some simple fashions never go out of style. Try sporting dark, slimming jeans, a simple solid colored tank or cami, some chunky bead necklaces, or a cute sun dress.

Clean up, wear deodorant, shave frequently, clean your ears, and you could try to paint your nails. Also, try to wear your hair in a style that makes you feel pretty and use a perfume that smells sweet, but is not too overpowering. Don't mix perfumes--we don't want to have your neck smelling like cherry while your dress is smelling like agbalumo!

2. Act Right

There are multiple ways to act flirty, here are some of the best suggestions:

• Compliments

Be sure to compliment them on things that are true. Sometimes people will make up compliments just to talk to someone, but that is the total wrong thing to do. You really should compliment on things you really like, so you sound more sincere naturally.

• Eye contact

The eyes can be your most effective tool for flirting. It's possible to make a guy's heart skip a beat by giving him a playful, lusty, or lingering stare. Here is how to do it:

If you're walking by someone you've got the hots for, give him a 2-3 second stare and then slowly glance away (slow is important). Smile just as you start to look away. He'll get the message.

Additionally, when you're talking to a guy you like, take a second to momentarily break away from his eyes and pause on his upper body or chest. Let 2 seconds pass. Then slowly move your eyes back up and make eye contact again. This will give him chills of excitement. He'll realize that you were checking him out...and he'll love it.

• Hair Flip and Twirl

If you want to catch a guys attention, flip your hair casually over your shoulder (if you have hair). Twist it and then untwist it, tuck it behind your ears, or run your hands through it. If you're wearing a weave that's been styled to perfection, you might just want to leave it as is to avoid showing tracks while flipping and twirling.

• Soft Giggle and Smile

According to polls, a laugh and a smile are the sexiest things a female can wear. If you perfect your smile and laugh to be seductive and sweet, you will find some great results. Practice forcing a natural smile (at home first) and laugh, it can help through awkward situations.

• Magic Touch

You can learn to brush a guy in such a way that you send tingles up and down his spine. Casually tap him while laughing, rest your head on his shoulder if you're tired and hold his hand when you're nervous; it will give him a sense of manliness and you a touch sweetie-pie, no pun intended.

3. Move Closer to Him and Start The Conversation

Approach him and start a light conversation to get things going, but don't make it too obvious that you like him. If he approaches you, look him in the eyes as a sign of affection and confidence. The best opening line is saying hello. Talk about what you have in common, talk about your surroundings, ask a question, ask for help, state an opinion.

4. Get To Know Him

After he has come up to you and both of you have started talking, just try to find out whether he is your type or not. If you feel comfortable with him, carry on with the evening. In case he is not your type, just excuse yourself politely from his company. However, remember that you are the one who led him on. Now if you don't feel up to it, don't get unnecessarily rude.

Lastly, if he's interested in you, don't just go immediately to be "best friends" or"boyfriend." Just start hanging out with him, and become friends, slowly become best friends, until it becomes even more! You want to make sure he is the right guy for you!

Good Luck, Ladies!

NOTE: Sarah Nichols is the author of the tips--we just added a little spice to appeal to our African readers. Hope you liked this, share it with someone!

Photo Credit: Shebasgraphics

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10 Steps to the Perfect Kiss

"My boyfriend is African; he doesn't know how to kiss!" Get that sentence out of your mouth this Valentine; it takes two to tango. If the other person is slacking, you should be in charge.
Since Valentine is around the corner, we thought it would be nice to share some tips with you. Read, practice & be perfect!

Step 1. Look into your partner's eyes.
In anticipation of a kiss or to initiate a kiss, start by gazing into your partner's eyes. Have you heard the phrase that the eyes are the windows to a person's soul? It's true. When you gaze into your partner's eyes, you'll learn their true feelings, emotions, and intentions. In an intimate situation, gazing into your partner's eyes sends an intimate message, letting them know that you want to get closer.

Step 2. Smile.
A small, suggestive smile does wonders. If you want to find out if your partner is interested, sending a suggestive smile will do the trick. If you get a smile back, you're good to go. If not, or if your partner looks down or away, you probably want to back off.

Step 3. Lean in closer.
Now that you know you're about to kiss, it's time to move in. To avoid awkwardness, move slowly. Moving in too fast can make your partner uncomfortable. As you move in, make sure that you're in a comfortable position.

Step 4. Engage in light touching.
Men: A nice touch (literally!) to the perfect kiss is to lightly touch her face as you move in. A light touch such as this promotes the feeling of intimacy between the two of you.

Step 5. Tilt your head.
Now that you're moving in, it's time to make sure that you're aligned with your partner. You want to tilt your head slightly so that your lips are lined up and there's no chance of a missed kiss. Watch as you tilt to make sure that your partner has already tilted.

Step 6. Relax your lips.
Make sure that your lips are relaxed and not tightly pressed together. The perfect kiss is pleasant, with your lips softly pressed together.

Step 7. Moisten your lips.
Lightly moistened lips make for a better kiss, so keep lip balm close. You obviously won't be able to whip out the lip balm when you're "in the moment", so prepare ahead of time. This is true for both men and women. If you're caught off guard, a quick lick of the lips will work for women. Men, you want to keep your lips a bit drier, so don't lick. Both men and women need to tread carefully here. Lips that are moistened too much can make for sloppy, slobbery kisses, while lips that are too dry make for unpleasant, rough kisses. Women, you may also want to wear a brighter red lipstick. Experts agree that the red lipstick sends sexual messages to men and is a perfect addition to the perfect kiss.

Step 8. Close your eyes.
Close your eyes as you're about to make contact. Some people feel awkward if their partner's eyes are open. Besides, you'll end up with a much more passionate kissing experience if you close your eyes and let the sensations drive you.

Step 9. Part your lips.
Now that your lips are relaxed, part them slightly as you begin contact. Don't open them too much or your partner may feel that you're 'swallowing' them. Don't keep them too closed either though because your partner may get the impression that you're not as 'in' to this kiss as they are.

Step 10. The kiss.
It's finally time for impact! Gently touch your lips to theirs and you have the perfect kiss. Be sure not to pull away too quickly. You want to take your time and enjoy it! When you do finally pull away, look your partner in the eyes again. A smile, an embrace, or a whisper letting them know that you enjoyed it are a nice way to end a kiss.

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Master the French Kiss | Valentine's Day Tips

Most women will say that they base a lot of their impression of a man on the way he kisses. Is he rough? Is he gentle? Does he know what the heck he's doing at all? All of this matters. But ladies, I've got some news for you too. There's just as much riding on this from your end as well. Guys can tell a lot from just one french kiss. Namely, they'll know just how effectively you can use your tongue. And yes, that matters.

1. The Closed-Lip Kiss

Why in the world would I start with a closed-lip kiss? Isn't that the opposite of a French kiss? Yes it is, but we've got to start somewhere and you've got to crawl before you can walk.

The closed-lip kiss is great for starting out because it gives you time to get comfortable with your lover and it goes a long way in setting the mood. Use this time to get comfortable, put your hands in the right position, get your face wherever you want it, and so on.

Too easy? Okay, let's move on.

2. The Tongue Tease

When your tongue first enters the other person's mouth, make it a tease – a taste if you will. This isn't the time to be seeing how far in you can get. The trick is to be slow and very subtle.

Explore their lips, teeth and tongue, but only for a moment. They should feel you getting in there and then leaving just as fast. This isn't because you're nervous, it's because you're in control. You don't want to give away the ending before the story has even begun.

3. Exploration

Now comes the time when you're going to put a little 'oomph' into it. This is the part that most people think about when they hear the term 'making out'. It's that long, sensuous, tongue driven moment that makes your lover think 'wow'.

To describe this moment would be like trying to describe the color red, but I'll do my best.

Depending on your position put your hand on your lover's back or waist and press your lips against theirs slowly and firmly. With your lips on the way to their lips, have your tongue ready to make its move into position. When the time is right – once your lips have made contact – plant your tongue on their tongue (which should be up and ready) and press lightly.

At this point, it should be loud and clear to your lover that you know exactly what you're doing. And we've only just begun.

4. Outside the Mouth

At this point, it would be natural for you to keep going and move forward as you please. But that's why I'm here – so that you don't get carried away.

After a little bit of exploration, I like to cool down for a moment, and back up for a second. No I don't mean that you should move away and strike up a conversation. But ease up on the aggressive kissing. Go back to the closed-lip style and focus on the outer lip, chin, and neck.

This is all a ploy to keep your lover guessing. And they'll never guess what you're going to do next.

5. The Lower Lip

The secret weapon in most French kissing arsenals is the lower lip. Of course, this needs to be done with a lot of tender care.

Take your lover's bottom lip into your mouth and suck it. Use your tongue to add to the sensation while your lips surround their lower lip. Move fast, move slowly, use your tongue, use your lips – do whatever the heck you want to do. But focus – and I mean focus – on the lower lip.

Paying this kind of attention the lower lip is very erotic for everyone involved. Both men and women love doing it, and having it done to them.

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